Future Father of My Children

The first step I would take to ensure an active father role in the lives of my children would be to marry the right guy. However, I have talked about this sort of thing with someone who I think could potentially be a father to my future kids. One of the things we have talked about when it comes to fatherhood involvement is having a weekly Sunday father to child talk with each kid. This would entail the father taking time to sit down and talk with each kid about how they are doing and if there is anything that he could do to help them with school, or other challenges the kid may be having.

Something else I believe would be really good for my husband and father of my kids to do is to show our kids how much he loves me as his wife. I really mean that he should do this by being by my side whenever possible. He should support me in the things I want to do. He should hold me when the children are present and give me a kiss when he gets home from work. I think my parents stopped kissing each other in front of us kids for a time because whenever they would kiss each other, we would always say, “eew.”They probably got tired of hearing that whenever they wanted to give that sort of affection to each other. I probably would get tired of hearing that too, but I still think it’s very important that my children know how much their parents love each other.

I also think that it would be important for my husband to take an active role in helping to teach our children and helping them with their school work. However, since I expect him to be working much of the time, I would really expect him to at least not turn our kid away when they ask for his help.

I would also encourage my husband to go out with our children, whether that is with each individual child or with all the kids at the same time; preferably both. I know this would probably only happen once or twice a year (since I would want to go with them on most occasions).

My Dad

I love my dad very much. He is a great father. He is an excellent provider for me and my family. However, he does not just give me everything I want. I do feel that I have been more spoiled than most children by my father. His work allowed him to have plenty of time off for vacations and things where he could spend time with our entire family. He and my mom would take me and my sisters camping about once a year where we would be able to get fresh air and have lots of quality time together. My dad, when he is not at work, is almost always up for playing some games with my mom, my sisters, and I and we get to spend a lot of time together that way. Just over this Thanksgiving break, we would all get together and play several games every day that I was down there.

There was a period of time when my dad would take my sisters and me out on individual “father daughter dates.” When I went with my dad, we went out to Baskin Robins for some ice-cream which was a special occasion for me since we almost never would go out for ice-cream at an expensive place like Baskin Robins. It gave me some time to just be with my dad and I really liked that a lot. I found that having that time alone with my father was really good for me and helped me to better understand the love my dad has for me that much more.

The one thing I wish my dad did more was to show me the things that he would do. He did all sorts of jobs around the house and I rarely ever helped out with any of them or even knew why he was doing whatever it was that he was doing. I feel that I could have learned a lot more if my dad had me help him out with the things he was doing. For example, when he would work on the cars, or if he would be unclogging the plumbing in our bathroom sink, or if he was just setting a timer on the sprinkler system I either never knew about it or I was never asked to help out much. I feel I could be closer with my dad if he included me more while he was doing those things and I would also know more about those things for my future family.